Pretty much the first stop here, is the realization that we can't fix this, we can't fix ourselves, we can't fix our spouse, we can't fix the kids, the family, or the other parties involved that have somehow been overtaking us..., whatever it is we can't fix it, nobody else that we've tried or could try can fix it..., and we're in way over our heads and we couldn't even see it before.
The next good place or stop is on our knees realizing what fools we have been trying to build our lives our own way with our own resources and realizing that for the first time, that's not enough as apposed to the illusions that somehow it was all good enough or that we were doing pretty good.
All the places in this box or section are for the players, not the actors. Here is where we realize that it's actually a Huge Grace that God brought us to this place where we are finally ready to yield to Him, to cry out to Jesus, to ask Him into the thing, or the people, or more importantly into ourselves, into our deal, into our mess. And maybe for the first time we're ready to be shown that it is in fact a mess, and that we not only need more help than we realized, but that we need The Maker of All Things, Jesus Himself, Redeemer and Lord. That there is no one else that will do. We cut to the chase. Somehow we know that there's only now One Name That Rolls off The tongue out of the innermost part of our hearts cry. Jesus, please help.
And He shows up, He does some things, He takes some time, and usually a lot longer than we think He should, but then we start to see that everything that He does Sticks, it Takes, it Goes In. And The Love that He has that we have been missing is taking hold and taking over and bringing all the necessary ingredients for Life and Godliness and Grace.
Wow, the religion to pretend to fix without letting Jesus in part didn't work, but Jesus isn't about that, He's about transforming and changing everything and everyone He is given permission to access, to touch.